Dear Stressed Mom,
You are exhausted, dealing with your newborn baby.
The pressure is mounting, and you’re feeling overwhelmed.
The pressure increases as you juggle caring for your baby while trying to manage countless other responsibilities:
- Household chores.
- Pay attention to your older child’s education.
- Meeting work commitments.
- Taking care of extended family
- and so on…
While you are in deeply short of time
You’re sleep-deprived, but when your baby cries, you push through the fatigue to soothe them, hoping to ease their discomfort. You’re desperately tired, but your baby’s feverish grip on your hand keeps you close.
Everyone around you—neighbors, relatives—advises ensuring your baby’s best development. There are countless things to do, but you struggle to keep up.
Being a mother is exhausting and stressful, but there are some things you should keep in mind:
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First, you don’t have to be a perfect mother.
You don’t have to breastfeed exclusively to be a good mom. You can follow simple baby food recipes if time permits. You don’t have to be by your baby’s side every moment. Don’t let others’ expectations or your ideals of perfection overwhelm you.
You only need to do your best for your baby, and they will appreciate it, regardless of what others say.
If your baby can’t breastfeed, you can use a bottle instead. If you can’t prepare perfectly balanced baby food due to work commitments, you can buy it. If you can’t spend all your time with your baby, try to give them your attention whenever possible.
The most important thing is that you and your baby are healthy!
Do what you believe is best within your abilities. Lower your expectations of being a perfect mom to reduce the pressure. Sometimes, uncontrolled stress can lead to postpartum depression, which is very serious!
Second, seek help from loved ones if you’re feeling exhausted.
Many moms can only get around five hours of sleep a day or less because of their crying babies’ tasks like pumping milk, sterilizing bottles, preparing food, and breastfeeding.
Sometimes, you’ll feel utterly exhausted, with little time for yourself. This feeling often happens, especially when you don’t have a helping hand from family or relatives.
But don’t suffer in silence. Don’t think enduring all this is the norm for a mother with a baby. Rest when you can because your baby will only be healthy if you are. Your child will feel your happiness or sadness. You’re not selfish for taking a break. You’re still living for your child even if others criticize you for laziness.
The feeling of raising a child is imperfect.
You may even feel that your child is disadvantaged and needs a lot of compensation.
But you’re not superhuman, so try to do what you believe is best. You’re trying, and that’s what matters.
Third, your child will grow and appreciate your love over time.
Your child will gradually grow, whether or not you’re a perfect mom. To your child, you are their world!
To your child, they’ll always address you with the most affectionate term: MOM.
You’ll still be their mother, no matter how the world changes or what people say about you.
Just like a mom sweating in the heat while breastfeeding without changing her clothes in time, but to your child, you will never be criticized. Your child won’t judge you even if you feel self-conscious about surgical scars, wrinkles, and stretch marks because you’ll always be their beloved mother, even like a superhero!
Your children will grow up and feel the love you’ve given them.
They won’t question why you chose formula milk instead of breastfeeding or why you fed them traditional baby food instead of Japanese style. They’ll rarely wonder why they started childcare at their 12 months.
And you’ll gradually forget the above things as new concerns about school choices, helping them study, and paying school fees take over.
Then, one day, your child suddenly tells you he has a crush on someone in class, and you’ll realize how quickly your child is growing!
Keep the pressure away, and keep giving your best, Mom!
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