Changes since having a baby are unimaginable!
This is an article for those who wonder about the journey of motherhood by reminiscing about my journey before and after having a baby.
Here is a picture of a girl before having a baby:
In the past, I could spend hours going to the nearby supermarket, slowly looking at each item, the ingredients and instructions on how to use the small, beautiful and eye-catching things. I really loved going to supermarket even though I didn’t have much money in my pocket, just the intention to relieve stress after long working hours.
And, I could take a long bath with the basic steps: shampoo, hair conditioner, and 7749 skin care steps I learned from the internet and applied exactly.
Sleeping was also a favorite part of mine. I loved to sleep and took advantage of a little sleep whenever I had free time. Otherwise, I just entertained myself by surfing Facebook, reading stories, reading books, watching Korean movies….
In addition, if I wanted to go out for a while, I could also make a quick decision in a short time: With a quick call, I found myself present at a coffee shop chatting with friends, going to the movies, or going to somewhere for sightseeing in Dong Nai (A city of Vietnam). It was very easy…
In general, everything went smoothly, slowly, and nothing special….
Until …. I had a strange feeling in my stomach, then I didn’t see my normal women’s cycle when it should come due. Then … I bought a pregnancy test kit and the result showed positive!
Hurray, so I had a baby! (I definitely don’t want to tell the journey of my hard pregnancy journey!)
The first strange thing: Some people even can not recognize a mother and pre-mother girl even though it is the same person!
A very obvious change in appearance: a much larger belly, plus staying up at night to breastfeed letting a beautiful young girl change into a rather sloppy person at home: her hair is not combed in time, only a quick wrap. lumpy, wearing regular clothes to take care of small children, dark eyes like a panda….
It’s not because I don’t want to be beautiful, but because if I want to be beautiful, I will lack sleep, but sleep is more important….so most of my body is more rotten than before… (except for those mothers who are lucky to have an assistant from grandmother/grandfather/housemaid… to take care of the baby. I am not in that case).
The second strange thing: less interested in others, sometimes… even hates her husband!
Husbands often get into misconduct by finding another girl outside when their wives are pregnant. Because suddenly the wife turns to hate her husband or is scolded and annoyed by her… The whole world of the mother now is almost focused on the little angel next to her, so her husband suddenly becomes a hateful person because she may think her husband caused it.
The third strange thing: I have a whole new world to explore that I never cared about before.
Knowledge of childcare seems to be endless and seems to change… in many ways. Mothers seem to encounter a vortex in researching which diaper is best for their baby, how to prevent diaper rash, what vaccinations should be given, how much weight is right, the baby’s skin is allergic, what to eat…
Just thinking about them makes me dizzy….
The fourth strange thing: Mother may be afraid of many creatures (such as cockroaches, mice, snakes…) but after having babies, every mother tends to be afraid of children… crying or being sick.
Facing a sick child is like torture for mothers, because normally taking care of their children to eat, sleep and breastfeeding is also tiring, sick children are more fussy, uncomfortable, and difficult to sleep, making the mother more tired.
The fifth strange thing: the mother’s previous entertainment (mentioned above) seems to no longer exist, instead her entertainment time turns into playing/talking with her children – making this the main entertainment channel!
In the past, I had time to do things according to my hobbies. Now, I have to do everything quickly because of a baby crying or fear of falling. Or if a baby clings to his mother and if he doesn’t see his mother for a while, he will cry so much that you can’t do anything else.
Bath time was shortened from 40 minutes to about 5 minutes…
Eating time was shortened from 30 minutes to 5-10 minutes, even while eating, I had to put down the bowl and run back to my child crying.
A mother who works at the company is also very effective. She has to focus on her work, not daring to be distracted because if it lasts too long, it will take that much time for the children after coming home.
The sixth strange thing: Suddenly I realize that human can communicate with each other without understanding their mother language!
You can even understand what your baby wants just by his crying, or throwing out of his chest, or just his “aa”, “oo”… sound.
You can talk to your baby with just the original sounds like a a, á à, ooh ooh….
The seventh strange thing: Mother’s ability to save and calculate skyrocketed without taking any more financial management courses!
Instead of buying more clothes for herself, she will give priority to buying diapers and clothes for her children. Mothers naturally become less shopping for themselves and tend to shift to shopping for things for their children. Shopping priority will be according to the philosophy: if the child doesn’t have enough supplies, then the mother automatically will not buy anything for her…
Mothers also tend to buy things that are really necessary instead of over-shopping at their single age. The extra money will be saved and they buy insurance for your children or just … leave it there in case something unexpected happens…
And naturally, I feel that minimalist lifestyle is a must.
(View more: Tired of having too many furniture at home? Try a minimalist lifestyle;
Or another post: Parents with 3 children save 50% of their income with a minimalist lifestyle)
The above are the most genuine changes since having a baby only after experiencing it will you fully understand how it feels. Mothers with different circumstances will have slightly different levels of perception. However, your little angel deserves your hard work because they are so adorable.
If I had to choose between having children and not having children, I would still choose to have children. It is tough but happy!
If your opinion is different from mine, please comment to let me know.
Thank you for reading this article and wish your motherhood journey is enjoyable, filled with happy moments…
Wish you healthy like a superwoman to take care of your baby and be the best fulcrum for your child from the very first steps!
For your children, his mother is a superhero!
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