Tired of a 2-year-old child's tantrums? Here are 4 ways to deal with it

Sometimes it is difficult to be a good mother when facing a 2-year-old child’s tantrums! You may not understand why the baby insists on asking from this thing to another and if you don’t satisfy him, the baby may cry and scream for even almost an hour!

No matter how hard you try, your baby doesn’t stop crying!

My baby cried and screamed for even an hour, I don’t understand where he got his energy from!

I was extremely stressed, even though I’m a mother of 3 children with lots of experience…

My story went through 7749 different ways to treat my 2-year-old child’s tantrums such as: Threatening a mouse running, threatening to beat him, insisting, and hugging the baby…. every time my baby cries. But the situation is still unchanged.

When threatening a mouse running, my baby is not afraid.
When threatening to beat him: it is true that the baby is very scared at first. But it’s quite pitiful that the baby is afraid to cry, and he tends to be violent with other children.
When insisting, hugging the baby… while the baby is crying: the effect is zero because the baby keeps struggling, crying even louder.

So how to deal with a 2-year-old child’s tantrums? After many times trial and error, I would like to share the following methods that I found most effective:

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Firstly, it is necessary to understand the psychology of a 2-year-old child’s tantrums:

At the age of 2 to 3 years old, your children are able to discover what they like and want to do only what they like. Everything that is against your children’s needs will show only one way: crying and begging for it to be done…. Because at this age, your babies can’t control or suppress their emotions because they don’t have enough vocabularies to describe their needs in words. Baby will drag you to where he wants you to go, he will climb on the chair to ask you to feed him what he wants….Your baby expresses his desire very strongly…

At this age, crying is a part of growing up. But you should not satisfy all your child’s needs because this will become a bad habit for him later. The baby may form the perception: “Ah! If I want something, I just scream and cry so my parents will buy it for me right away”; and this perception will follow the baby until he grows older. Don’t let your baby become this kind of demanding person!

Secondly, ignore the child when he shows signs of tantrums:

To deal with a 2-year-old child’s tantrums, you should not pamper your baby in a way that meets all his needs. Instead, when the baby is abusive, or crying, parents can let the baby cry. But you are there to wait until the baby has calmed down and stopped crying. Parents can hold the baby in their arms to comfort, explain for the baby to understand which behavior is good, and which one is bad. If your baby implements good behavior, he will get rewards, and on the other side, he will be furnished.

For example, when it comes at 9 o’clock in the evening, the whole family members would turn off the lights to go to sleep. But in that case, very often my baby would protest against his mother to turn off the lights! My way was to notify the baby that playtime was over, and it was time to go to bed. Then I sat with the baby to wait for him to calm down (mom and son would not have any other activities) and even took out the pillow to wait for my baby. My baby sat still for about 15–20 minutes, then obediently followed his mom into the bedroom.

I find the above way is effective and gradually your child will understand more and more over time. Then, it becomes easier for your baby to cooperate with you next time.

Thirdly, try to distract a 2-year-old child’s tantrums:

Another good way is to distract and redirect the baby by calling out his or her name so that the baby comes back to you; then show the baby something attractive, such as a chicken, flower, balloon, etc. so that the baby forgets where he is going. Or parents can give the baby a favorite toy, or a certain food to divert the baby’s attention.

Fourth, parents themselves need to control their anger when disciplining a 2-year-old child’s tantrums:

When facing a 2-year-old child’s tantrums, parents are easily influenced by their emotions and get angry, yell, or even beat the baby. If parents feel they are becoming angry and can not control their temper, you should walk away and take a deep breath.

It is because your child will learn from your behavior and it will be difficult for him to learn how to control emotions later. Parents are the models that children most easily imitate.

Your baby may become more violent towards those around him if you frequently hit him.

Disciplining a 2-year-old child’s tantrums, parents should understand that your two-year-old child does not intentionally spoil and upset parents but he just couldn’t find a better way to express his upcoming feelings. Therefore, parents or loved ones need to be patient and teach their children how to express their wishes. When the baby understands what the parents say, everything will be much simpler and easier!

I still regret when I felt so angry that I yelled at my baby and beat him. At that time, the baby kept crying and clinging to my legs no matter how hard I tried to separate him from me. He might be so scared that his mom wouldn’t love him, but in fact, it was only because he didn’t know how to express it at that time!

For toddlers, parents are their whole world because all day babies are just around and follow their parents. That is the reason why parents need to really control their emotions and be more patient with their children.

Your baby will go through this phase very soon and he will learn more ways to express his emotions as a part of growing up…